By: Brad Dobson LMHC, LCAC, CADACII
Who am I? This question reoccurs throughout life when we transition from one phase of life to another. Middle school is commonly one of the hardest transitions that involve exploring who we are and where we belong. These transitions in identity are intended to be fluid and changing until adulthood as we build new experiences, insights, and a higher level of understanding.
The problem occurs when we get into adulthood and never feel confident in the foundation of who we are. It is becoming more common for adults to feel like they don’t know who they are. They feel like they are just going through the motions of work, family, and life. There is an emptiness that leaves them seeking. We fill that emptiness with distractions like work, hobbies, and social media.
So, how do we find our identity? It is important to consider how solid you want your identity. An identity built on a career is shaky because jobs can be unstable and the economy is outside our control. An identity built on athletics is shaky because one injury can destroy your ability to participate. Popularity is a horrible identity because it can be stripped away by a single comment or picture. What kind of identity is impervious to physical limitations, worldly materials or opinions, and transitions in life?
“Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.” Hebrews 13:8 (NASB)
How strong is an identity built on the faith and pursuit of a relationship with Jesus Christ? “I the Lord do not change.” Malachi 3:6 (NIV) So many times in life we build an identity on changing sands, rather than a God that does not change. It is no wonder we repeatedly find ourselves searching over and over for a new identity. It is a futile effort. There is no transition in life that can destroy the identity founded on a faith and pursuit of a relationship with Jesus Christ. Death, divorce, illness, poverty, nor any life situation can destroy that identity. That is why people with that identity are capable of enduring even the worst life can throw at them. Just ask Job.
So, who are you? How strong is your identity? Are you ready to find what can be built on the strongest foundation of all as you pursue a relationship with Jesus Christ? I AM…